The Son…The Father…Me


The Son…The Father…Me
“What a father teaches to his son will also be taught by the same son to his own.”


SOMETIME IN THE EARLY 60’s…on the hilly side of a remote barrio Bongabong, in Pantukan, Davao…around 5:00 a.m…
“This is radio station DXAW now signing on. This station is owned and operated by Auto Broadcasting System (now ABS-CBN) and transmitting at 640 kilocycles.”, the Avegon transistor radio blared in the early summer morning.
The door of a small house has opened. The father, Teofilo (RIP), has sharpened his grasshawk while his carabao has just started to nibble the young kumpay grass. The smell of burning kerosene from the abohan (cooking place) suggested that the mother, Isidora (RIP), had risen too. The son, about twelve, was unaware of what was going on. He was still in his deep sleep.
As expected, “Pagmata na diha! (hey,there, wake up)”, the father said.
The son hesitantly obeyed. After he rubbed his face with his bare hands, he headed towards the small, wood framed mirror to comb his long hair, Beatles style. The father’s Tugaris wristwatch displayed 5:10 a.m. He then re-tuned the radio to dxMM to listen to his favorite songs. “Constantly” by Cliff Richard. “There’s Always Me” by Elvis, but most of all, to the Beatles. He has seen them on Song Cavalcade, a songbook called songhits. To him, they were the best. The father’s advise not to sport long hair was ignored. His big but flat nose did not match to his hair, unlike the real Beatles’.
The father though, did not fail to instill to the son’s mind the rewards of hard work. Of perseverance. Of self-reliance. Of trustworthiness. Of diligence. And many more. He did these not just by words but also by acts. He was a man of few words. He showed strong character not only during plentiful harvests but also on scarce seasons.
And yes, the importance of education. In one occasion, the son joked about the father’s ability to write clearly. It was election time. Marcos/Lopez vs. Macapagal/Pelaez for president/vice president. The father practiced what he would write in the ballot. He preferred Marcos/ Lopez but the “c” in Marcos was not bent well and the “L” in Lopez looked like a “B”. The son called him Marios Bopez. The father just laughed and said, “Do not follow me. Study hard until you finish. I am here to support you.”
PRESENT TIME…in the city… The wall clock displays 7:00 a.m.
The telephone rings. The father answers. It is an early call from Mila Cabiliza, the procurement officer from Tagum City-based DANECO, an electric cooperative supplying electricity to two provinces and two cities. She asks if their rush ordered goods are ready to be picked up. DANECO, (together with all the electric cooperatives in Mindanao thru Kupler Industries) has been his regular client for years.
The father have already packed them up the day before. It took him and his buddies four days to fabricate the goods. His shop is neat and tidy. The tools are in their proper places.
The twenty five-year old son, Junjun, is still sleeping. The father does not want to wake him up. He knows his son is working overtime for his programs. The father’s dreams for him are now a reality. The son finished his studies and is now working for a foreign company. Home-based – through the internet. In fact, he now operates and maintain a website he himself created.
Did the father effectively instill to his son’s mind the rewards of hard work? Of perseverance? Of self-reliance? Of trustworthiness? Did he show it not only in words but also in deeds? Did he displayed a strong character to his son?
Maybe yes. Junjun followed what the father wants him to. He never had any tattoos– no body piercing in any manner. He does not smoke. He sticks to only one girl for almost five years. He works diligently.
A good son? Sure!
A good father? Maybe.
Obvious. Both have fathers. Both have sons. The fathers wake up earlier than the sons. They both taught their sons moral values not just by words but by deeds as well. They showed to their sons strength in character.
Why are they similar? It is but natural, an age-old fact. What a father teaches to his son will also be taught by the same son to his own. The son in the early 60’s and the father at present time is one and the same– and that is me. I have been raised by my father with moral values, so I have to, too, to my son.
My only regret is that my father’s dreams for me did not all come true. While my son finished his studies, I have not!
Still, I am a happy and fulfilled father to my son!

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  8. Hi Doro,

    Perti gyud kaayo nimo ka maayo magsulat. Saludo ko!
    Ang imong prinsipyo nga gibarugan maayo kay napanonod nimo sa imong amahan. Pasensya nga bisaya kaayo akong gisulat diri. Asa diay imong opisina karon? I have worked in Tagum for 7 years as Manager of the Field Operations Group of Land Bank, then in 1995 was reshuffled in Digos till i retired early and joined Pastor Quiboloy in the KJC My only son took over as next of kin with LBP.

    I work with DXRD711 Sonshine Radio 7:45am to 9 am with Nerio Guimte and Manny Cabrera in our program “Baruganan”.

    Good Day and regards!


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    • Daghang salamat sa komento ug impormasyon, Ching…

      Ganahan ko ug binisaya kay garbo nako nga bisaya ko.

      Sa batan-on pa ko, nagapaminaw ko sa DXRD. NBC (Nation Broadcasting Corp.) ang ga-operate. Ang frequency ana niadto 670 KHz, tunga-tunga sa DXAW (640 KHz) ug DXRA (710 KHz). Daan na si Nerio Guinte didto

      Laomi nga mahimo akong tigsunod sa inyong tulumanon sa DXRD711.


  9. hello doro.
    mukhangmasay at kontento ka na sa buhay sa parte na magka ama mo sa iyong anak kasi naturual mo siya ng tamang pamamalakad ng buhay.kahit di ka nakapagtapos ng pag aaral nakuha mo pa rin kung ano ang itinuro sa iyo ng iong ama.i admired you for sana ang iyong anak me natutuhan sa itinuro mo sa kanya para naman maituro nya sa kanyang magiging pamilya lalo na sa anak,

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  10. manoy d, this is very similar to my papa’s (that was how we called our lolo) life story. he and mama had 8 children, including my mother. grade 6 lang ang natapos ni papa pero anim ang napagtapos niyang anak. 1 didn’t out of her own undoing. the other one was sickly. so, hats off sainyong lahat despite all the difficuties, na nakapagtaguyod ng inyu-inyong mga pamilya, at nahubog ang mga anak sa mga tamang values. stories like this inspire me no end na wag mag-complain. what i consider problems are probably nothing close to what others have.

    for this story, i am grateful. thank you.

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    • maraming salamat, Cherie. alam kong palalakihin mo sina Matthew sa paraang tulad ng sa iyong lolo…at sa akin.
      ito ay isang katunayan:
      “…as i lie between my sons, scratching the back of the one on the left and gently patting the bottom of the one on the right…”


  11. it proved to me one fact,getting a degree does not guarantee success in life.You succeed inspite of. Congratulation to your son and the honor is reserve to the father for bringing up such a good son. CONGRATS!!!

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